So a really good highschool friend of mine stopped by for lunch today, and we had an interesting chat, and then bam all of a sudden her two girls a year apart, the oldest is sixteen, well they start fighting, and the Sixteen year old Sasha has never been one for fighting, she's always been the good one, but lately Sam (the youngest) has been streaching her family to great lenghts, sneaking out, smoking weed, drinking hooking up with her friends boyfriends, even going as far enough to go behind her sisters back and hook up with her sister's boyfriend, and basically go after every boy her sister has had an interest in. Now Sasha I mean she's quiet she keeps things bottled up, and Sam started stealing from her parents, and her sister, to the point were locks were put on the doors (I had to help)
But today I was so shocked to even see Sasha just deck Sam in the side of the head, it was a surprise, as Sasha is the smaller yet older more you know level headed girl, were Sam has just been a little hell raiser from day one. So Theresa and I pulled the girls off each other, and David, the older brother, sat on Sam, as she had her little fit and Sasha, I couldn't believe this started yelling how she felt about her sister, all the things she has kept bottled up inside for months now, everything to cheating with her boyfriend, stealing, sneaking out and lieing, and how its tareing the family apart and how much she hates her, and as I had stated Sasha has never been a violent person, never!
So I took her for a walk outside to cool down and she just walked head down crying and shaking, I have little girls, not teenager's just yet, but I could still feel her pain, I had a sister just like Sam. And Sasha spilled everything, everything that her sister has ever done to hurt her, and I couldn't believe it. And I think what bothered her the most was the fact that her sister had sex with her boyfriend of two years, it was the first boy Sasha had ever said I love you too, and whom she lost her virginity too, so I understand how devistating and angry she could be.
But at this point I am almost in tears myself, I didn't know what to do, I just asked her if she wanted to be alone, and she had said yes, so I went to the barn started rumaging around in there, I heard Sasha walk through the barn door, and happen to glance up as she veered into Breezy's stall, (if most of you know I have a two year old filly, named breezy) and I listened as Sasha once again spilled her story to the filly, and she must has been in there for a good twenty mins, because when I left she was still in there crying.
I think though it was the best thing for her just being able to get it off her chest, and I think beating up her sister did her some good. Sasha always got pushed around by Sam, sisters fight, but not this bad!
So I got back to the house and David had driven Sam home, and Theresa sat there, head in hands, and she just shook her head, as a mother it is frustrating to know you cannot trust your children, because they lie and steal from you. I don't know what thats like yet, and I hope to never find out, oh god I hope to raise my kids with morals and respect.
But I know most of you out there are the young girls, what advice could you give me to pass along to Sasha, Sam and there mom Theresa?
- Listening to: nothing
- Reading: Change of the Heart